Discernment or Decision Fatigue?

What You’re Calling “Discernment” Might Just Be Overthinking in a Church Hat.

Is it just me?

It seems discernment has been doing a lot of heavy lifting lately—and not all of it is holy.

• Some of us are labeling hesitation as discernment.

• We’re calling confusion “waiting on God.”

• And we’re mistaking anxiety for “just being cautious.”

But here’s what no one wants to say out loud: You’re not always discerning. Sometimes, you’re just tired. And that’s not spiritual—it’s survival mode dressed up in church clothes.

Please, say it with me... Decision Fatigue is Real.

You’re not crazy and you’re not “double-minded.” You’re overextended. From the time you open your eyes, you’re bombarded with choices: → Should I speak up or stay quiet? → Should I stay or leave? → Should I text back, post that, pivot, pause, or push through?

And when you're juggling work, family, heartbreak, and maybe even hormones— your soul starts saying, “Whatever is easiest… just make it stop.” That’s not discernment. That’s decision fatigue.

What Discernment Actually Is:

Discernment is Spirit-led clarity. It’s wisdom sharpened by prayer, peace, and presence. It’s the ability to see past what’s presented— to perceive what’s really going on.

You cannot discern well when you’re spiritually or emotionally exhausted. It just ain’t happnin’ cap’n. Just like a tired body can’t lift heavy weights, a tired mind can’t lift heavy decisions. And that’s where many of us are stuck—confusing exhaustion with God’s “not yet.”Calling it “I just need more confirmation” when what we really need is a nap and a boundary.

“I once delayed a major speaking opportunity—not because I wasn’t ready, but because I was too depleted to decide. I said I was ‘waiting on peace,’ but I was actually overwhelmed. And by the time I realized it, the door had closed.”

—Vitality Client

So What's the Difference? Let's get a Truth-Check here:

If it's Discernment	If it's Decision Fatigue
It feels clear—even if it's uncomfortable	It feels heavy, cloudy, or like “just pick for me”
It comes after rest, prayer, or wise counsel	It comes after too many choices or too much input
It’s anchored in peace—even with uncertainty	It’s driven by anxiety, pressure, or fear of missing out

Discernment isn't delayed obedience. It's not perfection. And it definitely isn’t an excuse to hide behind spiritual language when you’re really just scared or spent.

Sometimes, the most discerning thing you can do, is take a break, drink some water, and let God speak to a rested you. Remember, man wasn’t made for Sabbath; Sabbath was made for the man… woman too.